Being the Best Ally: Supporting Your LGBTQ+ Friends
Friendship is one of the most powerful forms of support, especially for LGBTQ+ youth who may face unique challenges and stresses. As a friend, you have the opportunity to be a strong ally, offering love, understanding, and advocacy. Here’s how you can be the best ally to your LGBTQ+ friends.
Standing with Your LGBTQ+ Friends
Being an ally means standing by your friends through thick and thin. Your unwavering support can make a significant difference in their lives.
Be Present: show up for them in both good times and bad. Your consistent presence reinforces that you are a dependable friend.
Affirm Their Identity: use their chosen name and pronouns. Validate their feelings and experiences, even if you don’t fully understand them.
Stand Up Against Discrimination: advocate for them in your community, school, or workplace. Challenge discriminatory remarks or behaviors when you see them.
Educating Yourself on LGBTQ+ Issues
Understanding the experiences and challenges that LGBTQ+ individuals face is crucial to being a supportive ally. Books, articles, and reputable websites offer valuable insights into LGBTQ+ issues and experiences. Learn about the gender spectrum, gay and lesbian identities, bisexuality, or asexuality. Talk to LGBTQ+ individuals about their experiences. Listen actively and respectfully. Educate yourself on allyship in action.
Checking In Regularly
Regular check-ins show that you care about your friend’s well-being and are there to support them. When you are checking in, ask open-ended questions. Encourage them to share their feelings and experiences by asking questions like, “How have you been feeling lately?” or “Is there anything you want to talk about?”
Give them your full attention. Listen without interrupting and offer empathy and understanding. Ask how you can support them and respect their wishes. Sometimes just knowing someone is there for them is enough.
Watch Out for Warning Signs
Being aware of the warning signs of mental health struggles or suicidal ideation is crucial in supporting your LGBTQ+ friends. Here are the warning signs to look out for:
Isolation: withdrawing from friends, family, or activities they used to enjoy.
Lack of Interest: no longer finding joy in hobbies, school, or things that once made them happy.
Expressions of Hopelessness: talking about feeling hopeless or making statements like “I just want to die” or “Everyone would be better without me”
Self Injury: cutting, scratching, drinking too much or taking substances, or reckless driving.
If you notice any of these signs, it’s important to reach out and offer support. Encourage them to seek professional help and let them know you’re there for them.
The Importance of Friendship
Being a good friend and ally is not only beneficial for your LGBTQ+ friends; it’s also valuable for your own mental health. Knowing you have someone to talk to during tough times can reduce stress and anxiety for both you and your friend. Strong friendships provide a sense of belonging and security, helping both of you navigate challenges more effectively. By supporting each other, you both grow and learn from each other’s experiences, fostering personal development and empathy.
